Through all the fuss of wedding planning, I often hear brides joke about “just eloping instead”. Maybe even you yourself are asking 'Is elopement right for me?' It seems like a simple solution to an otherwise chaotic event. But here’s the thing, eloping isn’t for everyone, the same way full day weddings aren’t for everyone. If you’re struggling to decide which option is really the best for you, you must first answer these following questions:
One - Will Your Potential Guest List Interfere?
If you’re like me and have a big family of aunts, grandmas and cousins, think about how you would feel if they weren’t there to hear your vows. There is no right answer, and it’s not to be decided by your family members themselves. If your dream is to elope, you're looking for a compromise, and your family loves a good party, consider holding a “reception-like” event a day or week later!
Two - Is Your Dream Venue Actually a Venue?
One perk of eloping is having the opportunity to be married almost wherever you want. If you and your fiancé are hikers, an obvious option would be to elope at the top of a hill overlooking the city. If you’re surfers or swimmers, a beachside elopement is also meant for you! And, permits are significantly cheaper than large capacity venues. However, if you vision yourself dancing in a dazzling ballroom, eloping seems out of the question. You can also search for Portland venues that hold elopements or small weddings if you'd like something in between.
Three - What Vendors and Services are Your Priority?
If Catering or DJs aren’t on the top of your list, but Photography and Florals are, you could consider putting more of your budget towards the vendors that you will be happiest with. By choosing to elope, your vendor list will shorten dramatically and you can put your dollar to booking your dream vendors without having to sacrifice your solid budget. Don't forget to contact your dream vendors to see if they offer Oregon Elopement packages or services.
Four - Do You Really Want to Elope?
Eloping is a very intimate process, and very rarely involves more than eight people. If a party is important to you, eloping probably isn’t. If decor and bridesmaids are a priority to you, eloping probably isn’t. There is no right or wrong, only preference. Make a list of your pros and cons if you’re seriously considering taking this direction.
I hope these tips helped clear up some questions, and brought the answers you needed. If you’re still struggling, leave some questions for me in the comments box. You can also ask your favorite Portland vendors what they did personally to gain new perspective.